How Do You Handle a Defiant Child?
- March 6, 2018
- by Melissa Lawrence
I’ve often struggled to find strategies for dealing with a disobedient child. Why? Well, for starters my kids approach to me has turned out to be just plain different than mine was to my own parents. I don’t think I ever talked back to my parents. If they asked me to do something, I did it. If they disciplined me, I accepted the punishment. They loved us and cared for us but their lives did not revolve around us. They were the parents, we the kids. The hierarchy was clear.
For better or worse – and often it feels like worse – my kids see my husband and me differently, more as equals, less as an authority figure. They’ll even dare to say a big fat “NO” when we ask them to do things.
Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t happen all the time. But it does happen. Not every day and not with every kid, but more than either Marc or I find to be acceptable.