Postpartum 101: Sex After Baby


Hello Mamas!

When you’re dealing with a new baby in the house, sex is probably the last thing on your mind, unless you’re trying for another. So, Moms, let’s talk about sex…after childbirth! To be frank, it isn’t all that sexy!

Postpartum 101: Sex After Baby

Your Body After Giving Birth

Here’s my take on sex after giving birth. And we’re definitely not talking Fifty Shades of Grey here, people! (Though from the trailer, I wish we were!) There are definitely some things that helped, though, when it came to sex and my postpartum body. I will warn you that your body after giving birth might not be the same – but it is not all bad!

To the brave women out there who once were postpartum women, or are going through postpartum right now, please comment below to let me know below how sex after baby was different for you.  How did you handle sex after birth?  Were you into it?  Did it take a while?  Share below!

Thanks for stopping by and make sure to check back for more! xo


  • Heather

    Sex after baby: First baby it hurt A LOT. Second baby I had a woman doctor (who also had a baby within the past year), and she recommended lots of lube and woman on top. Well that helped a lot and gave me more control, and the overall angel was better. Just make sure he lets you drive, no need for him to get over eager your first time out.

  • Lisa

    I have a question about how you went about TTC while breastfeeding? When did you start trying to conceive and did you change/wean breastfeeding in order to do so? I’m 36 and exclusively breastfeeding a 4 month old, and plan to EBF for 6 months and do the recommended year as well, but would like to TTC sometime after 9 months due to my age. With your kids close in age, what tips do you have. If you covered this in an earlier blog, I apologize.

    • Great topic — going to answer this is a vlog that will come out in the next few weeks. To be honest, I conceived many times while EBF but this is not something you can count on. If having another baby is a priority for you, you might have to wean and then get your period and try to get pregnant again… it’s sort of a struggle and I hear you b/c I wondered about these issues alot myself… after one year, if you are nursing less and giving more food and some milk, I think you are more likely to get pregnant. I asked my doctor and he recommended weaning to maximize fertility tho’!

      • Lisa

        Thanks so much for your reply. I love your vlogs and blogs! Looking forward to more!

  • Anna

    Thank you Melissa for this video, it makes me hopeful things will get better for me as well. I know it can be different for different people but still, how much time seems to you to be the fair amount of time to heal after having the first baby (and tearing in the process)? And if sex is painful but the woman seems healthy to her doctor, what do you think is the better policy about sex – wait some more or try and practice till it gets better? Thank you very much in advance.