There comes a time for every mom to stop dressing and undressing in front of her children, but how do you know when the time is right? I think that this is a very interesting and important topic, and I’ve read about it in quite a few blogs lately. Lisa Belkin tackled the issue at the Huffington Post, as did her colleague Devon Corneal, and Babble blogger BethAnne wrote about how her toddler son is beginning to notice her body. BethAnne mentioned that she started to feel self-conscious and she started wanting to throw on a bathrobe while being around her toddler, and I just felt that I could completely relate because I went through that with each of my three sons.
When to stop parental nudity during early childhood development?
For me, this started happening with my children when they were around the age of four. When my kiddies were little, I never really thought twice about dressing and undressing in front of them. It was fine and there weren’t any problems, but I do remember very concrete moments in which I became very uncomfortable with being nude in front of my children. I noticed that my children were observing and noticing my body for the first time, so that was kind of my warning to stop and think about how often I was undressing and dressing in front of them. Every parent is different, but I think of myself as being a little more of a modest mom, and I prefer to not walk around naked. Since every parent is different, the decision on when to stop parental nudity in front of children varies. As I mentioned before, it was a very definite moment for me with my sons.
If my sons ran into my room while I was naked, I would usher them out and say, “Mommy needs her privacy.” Not in a mean way, but just in a way that would make it very clear that there was a boundary.
This situation can be a little bit awkward, so if you need any more ideas on how to easily establish a privacy boundary with your toddlers, check out my video! Mamas, have you faced this with your sons or daughters? And if so, how did you handle it? Let me know what you think!