Embracing Imperfection as a Parent

We all have images in our heads of how life will enroll as parents. We picture our kids playing, laughing, looking adorable for the first day of school, dribbling along in a basketball uniform and perhaps even scoring a basket, or even sound asleep in cozy pajamas come the end of the day. The stark disconnect between what we might imagine and how things actually unroll can be disappointing.

Our mornings, for example, are sheer chaos right now: with my boys discovering a new commute to their relocated school and my girls boarding their bus at 7:20 a.m., we find ourselves scurrying around in a frenzy looking for lost sneakers and school iPad chargers. “No matter how hard I try” … chaos rules. The perfect is the enemy of the good, my sweet Marc told me when we first met, and how right he was!

Annaliese turned nine last month and a few weeks back we held a gymnastics party for her at a local gym with girls from her class. Getting ready to leave for the party, we realized we had lost her gymnastics leotard! We had to buy one at the gym right five minutes before the guests began walking through the doors.

Then arrived snag number two: the cake. For years, we have ordered cakes from one reliable and delicious bakery. We opened up the cake to take a look and lo and behold, the top layer had slid off the side. Frosting was spewed all over the box, and one side of the cake had no frosting at all.

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In years past, this lop-sided cake would have bothered me. I would have felt annoyed that we paid money and ordered the cake, only to find that it hadn’t been transported properly. Well, that was then and this is now. I took one look at my beautiful girl happily jumping left and right with her friends and realized that the cake didn’t matter at all – no one would notice and it would be just as delicious — and that it wasn’t worth spending another second thinking about.

Embracing Imperfection in Parenting

Part of accepting imperfections is accepting them in oneself. How often have I felt disappointed that I didn’t do the right thing as a mom, that I’m not enough of what I should be. When I let go and forgive myself, remembering that I am trying to do my best, I find myself calmer and ready for the new challenges of the day. Try to do the same.

So with all that being said, here is the cake of note. What do you think?Embracing Imperfection as a ParentHere is one precious, wonderful, kind, loving, curious and smart little girl. So taken by the moment was she that she didn’t even notice a little missing frostingEmbracing Imperfection as a ParentAnd here’s one lucky mama with her prince and little girl (and a helper at the party who inadvertently photobombed).Embracing Imperfection as a ParentSo, my fellow mom and dads. Embrace your parenting imperfections! Give yourself a break, be kind to yourself, allow for some mistakes. That alone will make your house a calmer place.

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  • I appreciate for such great article as I am just learning how to handle the “imperfection” situation which I am not really good at.

  • mami2jcn

    My daughter is turning 9 this year. It’s a great age!

  • Sarah Hayes

    what a timely post. great reminder that none of us are doing things perfectly

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    enjoy every minute

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    While Im not a parent yet I do work with lots of moms who have difficulty doing that. Its seems to easy to say, yet so hard to do.

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    No one is ever perfect,be empowered to do according to your values. Embracing is a nice word.

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    Stressing over little things is a waste of energy. I’m learning to go with the flow and enjoy the moment.

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    Trying to be perfect is exhausting as well as an exercise in futility. Awesome post.

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    Nice cake! I hope she had a great birthday!

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    Beautiful cake! I hope she enjoyed it! Its all in the thought! Look, she didnt even notice it!

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    There is no such thing as the perfect parent. As long as you love your kids and show your love, that is what is most important.

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    So true. Imperfection can teach us how to adapt to life and teach us to look for the beautiful in the imperfect.

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