Midwives aren’t an alternative school of thought anymore, according to an article in the New York Times Style section. It’s actually becoming increasingly more and more popular and hip, like something that many women are opting for and something celebrities are choosing too, that would be seen in Vogue or with the Giseles of the world. I think it’s fascinating that more moms-to-be are considering using midwives, or even just plan on giving birth at home. After giving birth to five babies of my own, I have to say that this “trend”, as beautiful and potential healthy as it can be, just isn’t for me personally given my birth experiences.
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Why I didn’t choose a midwife
Having experienced two tricky deliveries, I would personally want to choose a setting where there is immediate, sophisticated child care. Anything I needed, I wanted it there as soon as possible. The only person I would want delivering my baby is someone who has every possible means of medical care at their disposal. I know that midwives are trained and licensed, but when it comes to a midwife vs a doctor, I always chose a doctor because I would worry that something would happen where I needed immediate medical care for my baby. And I chose a birth in the area of the hospital where the most advanced medical equipment was readily available.
My third baby was pre-term. He was born, and literally within seconds, he was whisked away to the NICU and the whole thing was unbelievably scary. I didn’t even get a chance to meet my son, and the doctors basically apologized, explained that he was having trouble breathing, and then told me that he was already on a respirator. The doctors could tell that he was having trouble breathing because of the tests that they ran on him, and they knew that his breathing was not quite where it needed to be. He actually ended up needing to undergo surgery during the first day of his life. Meanwhile, my first baby, who was technically full-term, had the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck and his heart rate was plummeting. Getting him out as safely and as quickly as possible became critical.
It’s because of these issues that I wouldn’t want to take any risk whatsoever. Of course, this is just my personal preference, but I would love to hear from moms who chose to have a midwife or to give birth at home. Do you all have thoughts on home birth pros and cons? Please share your birth experiences below!