Why Do We Always Have The Same Fights?
- May 15, 2014
- by Melissa Lawrence
Hello, my friends! So I love my husband dearly and we’re coming up on 11 happy years of marriage. Honestly, I wouldn’t say we have any significant marriage problems (thanks Heavens) and we have a pretty peaceful relationship. But like a lot of old married couples, we always have the same fights. In today’s blog, I am describing those fights. (Hopefully, the hubs is busy at work and not watching today!)
Help me out! How can I get out of the rut of having these same fights with the hubs? Share any tips you might have on how to stop fighting with your husband!
Here are some of the classic topics I inevitably end up fighting about with my cherished spouse:
1) The Friday night “I’m so tired” fight. A friend of mine once said “never talk about anything on a Friday night. Don’t even talk.” I am so spent on Friday night that nothing good is coming out of my mouth. So I’m trying to learn how to keep my mouth shut. As someone who mouths off on YouTube weekly and has filmed hundreds of videos, you might glean that this does not come naturally to me!
2) The vacation fight (a good way to continue arguing about money). Here’s how this one goes: I always want to take a vacation, and “some folks” are less inclined. I think I’m good at compromising on a lot of things, but other things not so much and honestly, it’s something I need to work on. It’s much more important to strike a balance than to always get what you want, because in the end nothing is more important than your marriage or partnership and your family and close relationships.
There’s one other classic fight we ALWAYS have that I’m working on, but to find out about that one, you’ll have to watch my video. Gotcha!
What do you guys fight about with your spouses or partners? Weigh in and help me out! Share any tips you have on how to stop arguing with your spouse!