Breastfeeding and Sex: Is Breastfeeding a Turn-Off?


Hello Mamas!

Let’s talk about sex!

Now that I have your attention — a dad recently spoke out saying that extended breastfeeding is a turn-off. James Braly wrote on the New York Times Motherlode blog that seeing his wife nurse their 5-year-old son made him lose his appetite, and not just for dinner. Mr. Braly is a brave man, I’ll say that!

Anyone else share Mr. Braly’s opinion?

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Dads and Breastfeeding

I was lucky enough to have an extremely supportive husband to see me through five children and I was so distracted and worried about caring for my children that I didn’t even think to ask him what he thought about my nursing habits. This article really got me thinking about dads and their views on breastfeeding. Should their opinions matter when it comes to when you breastfeed, either in the house or in public? Do fathers have the right to tell their wife to nurse his children even if she herself is opposed to breastfeeding for whatever reason? How would you Dads feel if Moms continued breastfeeding older children, as in older than 3 or 4? This is a super interesting debate and I would really love to hear what you (especially dads!) have to say on the issue!

For more thoughts from a mother of 5 on this hot-button issue, watch today’s vlog!

What did your partner say or not say about your breastfeeding habits? Comment with your thoughts!

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  • contactdesign

    I think sensitive mothers should ask fathers when they should stop breastfeeding and how it makes them feel. But, in the end, the mother owns the breasts and they should probably have final say. For me, nursing was not a turn-off but it was a trying time to have little ones because there was very little time/energy left for me and our husband/wide relationship.

    • Melissa-CloudMom

      It is certainly a huge commitment, I agree with you that the dad’s views should be taken into account but he should not have veto power!

  • AimeE

    I have had alot of trouble with this. I just had my third baby about 3 months ago. My husband has never really been supportive of breastfeeding. His mom never did, so I sometimes feel like he thinks it’s wrong to breastfeed. I try to explain the benefits of it, but it doesn’t seem to make a difference. When she cries he always comments, “I know, I’m sorry I can’t feed you”. It kind of feels like a jab at me. I only breastfed baby number 1 for 1 month, and had to stop because of medical reasons. Baby number 2 I only fed about 2 oz of breastmilk a day and the rest formula, because I basically had no idea what I was doing, not to mention I didn’t really have the support at home to get through it. With baby number 3 I am so determined to breastfeed for the first year, and am so proud she has only had breast milk! I still get little comments like “You are making her work so hard for food”, which makes me think, but then I realize that that’s why we produce milk, for our children and I will stick it out no matter how tired, worried or frustrating it can be because she is gaining weight, she is happy and healthy and I feel so proud to be able to give her the milk she needs!